My daughter was getting “depressed” because she was not getting calls for interview after having submitted over eighty job applications. “How stupid could I be that nobody wants to hire me?” I have heard similar lines from applicants, friends, and strangers before. Most of us normal people take a job offer, or lack thereof, personally. When we get a rejection letter or a “not qualified” verbal advice – no matter how tactfully said or written – we take it as a rejection of the “self”.
Job search is not about you. It is never about you at any point. It is about the job and the environment where the job is performed. It is aptly called a job search because it is all about the job. When a company creates a job description or specification, it did not have “you” in mind. It had the organization, the work process, and the product in mind.
Thus, when a job is posted or advertised, getting to the successful candidate is a hit and miss process. They might find the perfect person for the job or they may not. They may compromise or settle for a less skilled person based on their ability to pay. They may hire a less matched candidate because he clicked with the hiring manager. They may hire a less experienced applicant because the company wants to train and mould its people into their culture.
The bottom line is that all of these decisions are made not based on you but based on the company’s priority, capacity to train or pay, or sometimes based on subjective criteria that you and I will never know. So the next time you get a rejection letter or message, it does not mean you are not good enough. It only means that they have a good reason for moving on to the next candidate.